Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Updated Coffee Station (and reviews)

I confess, I have an addiction. It's bad. Pretty sure without it, I'd turn into a monster. Luckily, it's just coffee, so I'm really not too concerned. In fact, I've embraced it. My first go-to experience in any new town/city/state is to find the best coffee shops (preferably that serve donuts as well). It's truly fun and it gives me lots of energy. Win win situation!

Anyways, the down side is that I have grown a somewhat extensive coffee mug collection, to the point where my hubby started a daily cycle of complaining about it. You know, something like, he couldn't get a mug out without at least 3 falling on him in the process. Eh. So, I got to purchase some nice shelves that could match our table setup, yay! Now, all of our coffee mugs are on display (well, most of them) and my hubby enjoys his coffee mug choice in the morning again.

So this is for all those coffee addicts out there:

Shelves: I mean, you can't go wrong with Etsy. And this store was fast and the shelves are STURDY.

Table: I purchased this from Target about a year and a half ago. It's held up perfectly. However, my only complaint being that the white isn't so white anymore, but that would be our own fault as coffee has been spilled. More than once.

Coffee Maker: This coffee maker is amazing. I purchased it from Williams-Sonoma when they were having one of their 20% 1 item sale, AND I had a giftcard. Otherwise, the price is hefty. However, my husband and I are SERIOUS coffee drinkers. Black. No flavor. So, we wanted a good, simple coffee maker that would bring out the flavors of our coffee beans. Also, the glass carafe is the way to go if you want this model. I repeat, glass carafe, not metal.

Nespresso: They actually don't even make the Nespresso machine I have anymore. Well, at least the style of it. I love my Nespresso, don't get me wrong, but if you're interested in buying one, I would actually skip the milk frother purchase part of it. I've attached below the frother I use now. It was $20 on Amazon. My milk frother from Nespresso had kinks after using it 3 times. And it's officially started to die about 5 months ago. Not ideal for the price. So, click the link below and save yourself some time. However, I highly recommend the actually Nespresso machine if you like espresso and lattes! Yum.

Milk Frother: Okay, it's not even $20.

Friday, July 17, 2015

How to Handle a Pathological Liar in Your Life

So, this isn't usually what I write about, but I recently read from another blogger that you should write what your passionate about, and I'm passionate about relationships. Any and all relationships to be exact. I am also passionate about food and crafting, but unfortunately my hectic life often puts baking and crafting on the sidelines, however, my relationships can never be on the sidelines.

Now, onto the subject matter: Pathological Liars. 

I am truly sorry if there is one of these in your life. You might have read the heading to this article and thought, "did she mean, how to get rid of pathological liars from your life"? No, no I did not. I have the unfortunate circumstance of having one in my life that will be there indefinitely. My dad. 

You might say that I do not have to have him in my life by any means, but my mother passed away in 2009, and for all of his flaws and sins, he still loves me deeply. I have learned to keep a safe distance emotionally between us, and sometimes I think he is aware of it, while other times, I think he is happy as a clam just to have me in his life in a positive way. I won't go into details about my personal life and how I've reached this point with him, maybe in another post on dealing with emotional suffering, but know that my dad has not told me the truth in over 10 years. Even when I already know it. So, here are my top five points on how to handle (understand) a pathological liar in your life.

These two points have helped me better understand the situation/person:

1. They can't help it.
No really, they can't. It's a disease and an addiction. We learn (hopefully) as young children that the problem with lies is that once we tell one, we will need 5 more to cover the first. Or, perhaps, one of my favorite quotes by Mark Twain, "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything."  As adults we think we can manage and outsmart others with lies. One lie quickly can turn into hundreds. And at one point or another, we look around in the midst of these lies and realize we have dug a hole so deep, we can't see the way out. The thought of digging ourselves out becomes so frightening that we rationalize the lies and continue deeper. Pathological liars can't understand the damage they are doing, and to point it out to them can lead to my next point.

2. They believe their lies.
Each and every one of the nastiest fights I have ever had with my dad, all stemmed from me pointing out that was in fact lying and delusional. It shot him into a fury so horrifying, that I was forced to flee my own house. Pathological liars live in a world of delusion. They have lied so much and so often, that their lies have become their reality.  They cannot tell where the lies begin and the truth ends. 

 And my next three points have helped me continue, in the best way that I can, love my dad:

3. They can't be trusted.
Quite frankly, with anything. This puts a serious damper on the relationship, but you will never be setting yourself up for disappointment. To know the limits of a relationship can help you structure it so that it is most beneficial and pleasant for you or the other person. I have structured my relationship with my dad, so that it is most pleasant for him. I do not ask him to do things that I know he won't. And I certainly don't ask him about things that I know he will lie about. You may be wondering what kind of relationship we could possibly have, and it is a very surface-level, delicate relationship. There are a number of things I could do or say that would destroy everything that we've built, but I understand that he can't be trusted, and therefore, I'm complacent with what there is. 

4. Be wary
My dad will never be allowed to be a shoulder to cry on for me. He has severally hurt me more emotionally than any other person in my life. The hardest part being that he is still in my life. I can't cut him out like an ex-boyfriend or nasty friend. He is my only living parent. So, as I mentioned above, there are certain topics that are never mentioned, at least by me, to him. Nor, is he allowed into the secrets and thoughts of my life. My heart is guarded. The trick of a liar, is that they can make you believe they are telling you the truth. I have learned, over and over, that my dad can charm me, or anyone else, into believing that he is a different person. You should never let your guard down. Never.

5. Love them anyway.
It's incredibly difficult. How can you love someone who insists that you are not worth honesty? The rules and boundaries I put up in my relationship with my dad do not apply anywhere else in my life, I promise. However, instead of choosing misery and anger, I chose to forgive my dad for his lies, past and future, and continue our relationship. I by no means have forgotten. And sometimes, I think I tread lightly on not forgiving him. But, it is not my job to change him. Nor should I give him an ultimatum of having me in his life. My dad has suffered and will continue to suffer throughout his life because of his lies. I am not holding my breath for him to change but have accepted him as he is and the way things are.

 It took the better part of 8 years for me to reach this point. It wasn't easy, and I had to stop listening to everyone around me and do what was best for me. I took time away and then came back to the situation. It made a world of difference.

On a side note, reading and learning about The 5 Love Languages, seriously helped me understand my dad and other people in my life, and I think I might write about that sometime in the future. I find anything having to do with personalities and people relating to each other fascinating, really. It's weird, really. But here's a link to the book if you're interested, which you should be!

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Friday, February 27, 2015

DIY Kitchen Storage Makeover


It's been awhile.

Like a long while.

In my time away, I've moved twice and got married. So, at least I have that as an excuse. Sort of. 

Anyways, my awesome hubby now gets to live the dream of all my DIY projects (he's thrilled), and I've been wanting to share them for so long now! I also want to share some new hairstyles, though these will be for shorter hair as in pixie cut short, because that's what I've been rocking for the past 6 months....

Right, back to DIY. So, I bought one of those kitchen storage shelving units awhile back. You know the ones that have the cardboard backings and seem like a good idea when you bought it because you were broke but then you realize it was actually a terrible idea because it's fugly and always will be. Yeah, one of those. However, after the whole getting married things, we had even more stuff than before, so I couldn't really afford to throw out a perfectly functioning storage space just because it was fugly. So, I decided to give it a makeover! 

(Along with my bedroom furniture that belonged to my great grandmother and had been painted when I was 8 by my mother's friend to pink and purple flowers on white. Not fugly but definitely not appropriate for marriage, let alone my husband). 

Most of my furniture is white and I am obsessed with minty blues, so I dragged my husband out to Home Depot to find some nice paint colors that fit my vision. and I researched first too. I didn't want this to be some afterthought, not properly executed makeover. I wanted it to last. I actually referred to this post a lot. It was super helpful:


So my first step was buying a primer. I ended up going with her recommendation of Zinnser Cover stain primer with the brown label. I researched meticulously and that one was across the board my best option. I bought a lot of it because, well, I had big plans. But for the amount the price was right. Because of fugly's dark color (espresso) it took two coats of primer. Oh, and no sanding was necessary for this project seeing as it's all particle board and factory made parts. :)

For paint, it's really what you like best. I bought two Behr colors from Home depot, and off-white and a mint color, but I also ended up going to Benjamin Moore to get several other colors, which is an entirely different story. 

I bought Floetrol to help extend the drying time for the paint as well as Minwax's water based polyurethane to protect my hard work. Seriously. I meant business. 

The Floetrol might not be necessary for everyone, but for me it was a must. I am a slow worker and a perfectionist and definitely had some dried paint drops at first that drove me nuts. 

And I did the brush on Minwax polyurethane....but considering I was losing patience at that time, I am likely to invest in the rub-on formula mentioned in the above referenced post.


Ah, so much better! The handles on the outside are the mint color as well. And my hubby actually perfected the whole project by using a scraper to remove excess paint in the corners and any dried paint drops. He's the best. Now it matches our kitchen is no longer an eyesore to me. If anyone is super interested in the colors I will go and look in my garage for the names because right now they are escaping me, and then I will post them. ;)

Sunday, August 25, 2013

Chocolate Chip Cookies

So it's been....some time. In that time I've found a new job and got engaged. Been a little busy. And all of my fun hobbies kind of disappeared. But I'm starting back up again. And now I have a hubby to do even bigger projects with (whether he likes it or not). 

So I decided I was on a mission to find a good chocolate chip cookie recipe. I know i had one I really liked, but I decided I didn't. And seeing that Pinterest has about a billion I picked a couple and got started. Here is my first one, and I'm not going to lie, they are delicious. Nice and crunchy on the outside and chewy and soft on the inside. I used a mixture of chocolate in mine, since I may have not noticed it called for a full 2 pounds of chocolate (umm what?), but now I can definitely testify that you want bittersweet chocolate chips in these. And actually not chips, you want good hand-crushed bittersweet chocolate chunks.

This recipe also made about 70 of these cookies. That is usually cause for me to freak out about what to do with all these cookies, but we're going to a church BBQ tonight, so now I'll look so thoughtful with all these cookies made....

Here's the link to the blog I used for the recipe, and I'll also include the link to my pinterest, which has this recipe and several others on it. :)

My Pinterest


Monday, October 22, 2012

Coffee Cheat Sheet

I made this, so I always know all the ways to enjoy coffee.  Mmmmm coffee.

My many espresso drinks to make with my Nespresso maker. Dreams coming true everyday. 

And hey! I painted this whole thing by myself!

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Side ponytail.

You can really do anything with the over-and-under idea.  

So I took that idea and made it into many, many smaller loops and started on the sides of the head instead.  And trust me, those ponytails stay. This hairstyle survived a jillian Michaels Workout. You know it's hardcore if it can take that.

Cinnamon Roll Waffles.

Who knew this could be so easy and delicious. But seriously. EASY.  It's easier than baking the rolls in the oven....

Just pop open those Pillsbury Cinnamon Rolls and flop them on a waffle maker. Genius! Make sure you grease the waffle maker first though. Then smear with icing, whether included in the can or your own cream cheese concoction.  Mmmm yum.